Monday, August 22, 2011

Better Late: FBFF - Dreams

It takes a certain level of aspiration before one can take advantage of opportunities that are clearly offered. --Michael Harrington

I haven't been participating in the Fashion Beauty Friend Friday topics religiously lately.  Honestly, I tend to be forgetful and just haven't been checking out the topics ahead of time.  I was on the road for most of Friday and checked in on a few of my favorite bloggers on my phone and almost fell out of the car when I read the topic. Ok, that's a little dramatic - but the topic really hit close to home - dreams and aspirations.

Now, onto why this topic touched me and a super personal update on my life:

On August 5th, I was let go from my job.  I can say that I definitely experienced (and might still be) going through multiple stages of grief: Shock & Denial, Pain & Guilt, Anger & Bargaining, Depression, and  Acceptance.  While this isn't the death of a friend or family member, it is a loss like I've never experienced before.   I've grown accustomed to getting up and going to work day in and day out - now when I get up, there isn't anywhere to go.  I'm not contributing to my household the way I did previously and this change brings on a financial burden.  How am I going to continue doing a blog called The Clothed Commuter when I'm not getting out of the house on a daily basis?  The blog name feels like a sham right now - am I supposed to change it???

This change is a mixed blessing in so many ways and I think I can really see so many more of the positives in this situation.  As you've noticed from some of my recent posts I can be creative.  I love sewing, creating, designing and turning blah things into great things.  I've never found an 8-5 job that really fosters my creativity and it can feel so suffocating to look at spreadsheets all day long when that is sooo not my passion. 

I'm a firm believer that if you really want something, you should put it out there. Announce it, share it with God, the universe, anyone that will listen. Sometimes you get a responses to those dreams. Sometimes it can be hard to decipher how that response fits in to your aspirations.  I've been talking about wanting more time to focus on all of these creative ideas I have floating around my head.  I've thinking about teaching basic sewing lessons to children and doing some research on how to get that started. 

I never would have quit my job to pursue any of this - way to many scary variables!  At first I felt as if I was shoved out of the door at my job. But I quickly reminded myself that "When one door closes another one opens." And if I don't find another door, who is to stop me from creating one?  I'm taking this time to reflect on what I'm supposed to be doing.  What kind of job or career is going to make me happy and feel fulfilled?  I open to the idea that it may not be in a office, store or business.  My eyes are wide open and I'm really trying to listen to my heart during this time.

Thank you Katy for these FBFF questions.  I'm really enjoyed reading everyone's responses and they are really inspiring me to dig deep and think about what life has in store for me in the next couple of months.

1. Fess up – if you could do anything professionally what would it be?
Design and create children's clothing.

2. What draws you to this? 
Kids have a fantastic sense of whimsy and they are willing to wear some crazy things that adults may not be brave enough wear.  Children love color, patterns and fun designs.  These are all things I love and things that I love to design. 

3. When did you first start dreaming about this ideal? I started sewing at 11 or 12 and took to it naturally.  I still have a ton to learn but I've always enjoyed buying fun fabric and creating hand-bags, quilts, and accessories.  Over the past 10 years, I've sold hand-bags and a few other things but never really thought about doing much more with it.  Now that I have a little niece, I'm really enjoying looking at her clothing and figuring out how to make similar things for her. And now that I have more free time (upside to being unemployed) I'm thinking of making a serious go of it!

4. What’s holding you back from going all in?
Money I guess, now that time isn't a factor.  Thankfully I'm creating kids clothing from really affordable fabrics and cast-off clothing pieces from family members.  Now I just need to convince a boutique or two of the cuteness of my creations!

5. Sometimes the first step is the hardest… what’s one step you can take now on the way to realizing your dream?
It feels so great to let you know that I'm taking those steps.  I'm getting up and sewing many days a week.  I'm taking time to sketch out designs.  I'm talking to everyone I know to find out how I can make this work. 

My friend's and family have been so incredibly supportive during this time.  My sister sends me style inspirations for clothing designs regularly.  My cousin is scouring thrift stores for unique things for me to refashion.  My mom and dad have both let me cry on their shoulders.  Countless friends have seen my designs and not only encouraged me in my creativity, but given me thoughts on how to expand and improve my ideas!  Thank you again for your love and support!

With love,


  1. Oh, Tiffany! I'm so sorry to hear about your job, but really think it is amazing that you have taken a positive attitude. I think you could do amazing things with children's clothes!
    Let me know if you need anything!

  2. Oh hon, I'm so sorry to hear about the layoff. I'm glad you're exploring how to turn this into a positive, though! Keep your head're going to do great. I think there's a strong market in Sacramento for locally designed and made children's clothes, and I wish you the best! Can't wait to hear when it's all set up...I have many friends with children I can tell. :)

  3. Thank you ladies. It is a frustrating situation but I can't dwell on it, just have to move forward!


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